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Inevitably you’re going to have to move to the phone game which happens to be much better. Phones are the tool that let you reach out and communicate with anyone at anytime, which has its positives and negatives.
A lot of guys know how to act in front of women, but they don’t fully understand how to act with the phone. The key is to not come off needy, but a lot of guys do. You may not be trying to do such a thing, but it’s the way you use the phone that matters.
Wait Before You Call
Let’s say you go out and you get someones number. You may have this impulse to call right away, don’t. It just shows neediness. Basically it comes off like you have nothing else to do. Do you really want to come off this way?
Anyone that has watched the movie Swingers knows that the rule is two days. The reason is that you don’t come off needy.
Progressive Phone Lengths
Seriously, you shouldn’t be using a phone to have a long conversation starting out. That might be something that comes with time as you build a relationship, but I still don’t like it. If you really need to have a good talk with someone, do it in person.
I used to have a roommate at University that had these 12 hour tack-a-thons with his “girlfriend”. This is nothing more than neediness. I know I couldn’t talk on the phone for that long.
Keep it brief. Talking is for in person.
Have a Purpose
You need to have a reason for calling. If you want to ask your out to do something, make sure you know what. Get on the phone and ask. There’s no need to dance around points. Be a man and make them.
Do Not Fill The Answering Machine
Look, women get hit on a lot and because they’re nice, they’ll just give out their numbers. Often times they’ll just screen their calls. That means, if they don’t see a number they know, they’ll let it go to the machine. That’s life, but don’t be one of those guys that leaves a ton of messages because you’re coming off needy.
I suggest you don’t leave a message the first time. Try again later. When I say later, make sure there is sometime between the last call. If you don’t get her than, leave a message saying who you are and that’s that.
I don’t think there is a point calling back after that. She has your number and if she wants to talk to you, she’ll do it.
Have Grounded Expectations
You’re going to get women that flake, that will give you excuses and others that won’t even answer. It’s life. Remember, live your life and if a woman wants to be around you, than that’s great.
