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There is a really good saying that I heard. I don’t remember where it came from or who said it, but I thought it was pretty decent. “Fake it until you make it“. I’m sure you heard of Anthony Robbins who does that self-help stuff, he has said that if you do the physical actions of something you’d normal feel, than you’ll start to feel it. For example, if you’re having a down day and put on a smile, you’ll feel better.
Well, I don’t believe in the whole “positive thinking” and “The Secret” mentality that if you think it, it will manifest. I believe that actions change thinking and that’s what I want to do to help you get self confidence. Let’s be real, you can do all the positive thinking in the world, but it’s not going to give you confidence.
It’s Okay to be Unavailable
There are guys out there that will jump onto any piece of attention that comes there way from a female. This is what we call desperation and women have a real good eye for identifying this.
Here’s how a confident guy is – they have other things going on. If a girl calls you up and asks if you want to hang out, if you’re always available she’s going to assume that you don’t really have a life and you don’t have other things to do. It’s not a bad thing to say “sorry, I’m a little busy”.
This is the way you need to look at it; you have your life and women can be a part of it.
This is the wrong way to look at it; my life is getting a woman.
Don’t Talk so Fast
Talking fast is a way of saying that you lack confidence. The reason people do this is that they’re afraid people are going to lose attention and forget about them, so they just blurt it out as fast as possible.
Slow down and just speak slower. It can work in your favor because it can build anticipation. If you slow down and make pauses at the right times people will really gravitate to you.
Not Everyone Has to Like You
This was a hard one for me to get over. I was always trying to please people and be on their good side. I’m not sure if that constitutes a lack of self confidence, but it’s something that you need to learn. It’s a lose battle trying to stay on the good side of everyone. You start to end up living for others instead of yourself.
I hope these tips will help you become a self confident man.
