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A lot of guys want to know how to get over nervousness and nervous feelings they get when they’re with women or have to approach one. Well, the reality is that it will never completely disappear, but it can subside a lot.
I’ve tried to figure out what nervousness boils down too and I think it is a relatively new experience, where you’re not really sure of the outcome – even though you have to put yourself out there. It’s also important to note that you’re going to feel this “nervous” feeling around women that you would call “hot”, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re nervous, you could be just excited.
Here is what I’ve concluded…
Experience
I think the more you do something, the more experience you get at it, the easier it gets. You start to understand the outcome of your actions and it is no longer unknown. This takes away the nervousness. It was sort of like when I first started to learn how to drive. I was nervous as hell behind the wheel, but as I got more time behind the wheel, the easier it got.
Bad experience can have a bad effect, even though it will eliminate nervousness. You’ll just end up expecting negative outcomes and you’ll just become one of those sour guys that hate women.
Positive experience is what you should be aiming for because it is the most healthy. At first it’ll be hard to get that positive experience because you’re so nervous. It can be an almost self-fulfilling prophecy at first. If you start approaching women and talking to them, you’ll eventually get over the real bad nervousness. You’ll still feel nervous, but it won’t be so bad that others can spot it a mile away. At that point you’ll start to pile up all these positive outcomes. The more positives you stack up, the more confident you’ll become with the whole process.
