Attraction is a very important part of the process. To really understand what things are like, you have to view it from the perspective of a female. They’re viewed based on how “hot” they are. It’s not that this is a bad thing because guys are very visual, but it’s something they put up with all the time. They’ll have guys always wanting to talk to them, always wanting to do things for them, etc. Any hot woman will have guys she calls friends that really do anything for them. You can call this “using”, but it’s just the way things are.
What a woman learns is that as long as she is hot, she can pretty much have whatever guy she wants. What this comes down to is a perception of value. Do you value things that you can easily get? No.
This is where being different at attraction comes in. She knows she is hot and you know she is hot. These are facts that both of you recognize in an interaction.
But here is how you do it differently…
You’re going to state to her that she is hot, but you’re looking for something else. “You’re beautiful, but there are a lot of beautiful women in this city. What else do you have going for you?”
The reason that this is so effective is that it frames things to a position of dominance. She will begin to qualify herself to you. She will try to explain to you why she is worthy to be with you.
Trust me, it works. There’s not too many guys that will approach her and tell her that they’re not really interested in how hot she is.