Archive for the ‘Interest’ Category

Where do you Meet Women

Wednesday, July 15th, 2009

This is a question that I hear a lot and it is typically a question that is asked by people that are whinny and passive about changing their life about the better. Let me give you the secret that is going to change your life forever. WOMEN ARE EVERYWHERE! You can meet them anywhere, for any reason at any time. I know people prefer social places like bars or something like that, but it really doesn’t matter. Women do other things.

The mall is a very popular place for women. There are typically more women than man at anytime. You may feel awkward about talking to women that are just trying to shop, but that is something is in your own head.

There is a great thing you have to remember: no woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!” It’s obvious. You should always function on that philosophy.

If you’re looking to find a woman that shares similar interests, than get out there and do your hobbies. You can meet women anywhere and trust me it is a lot easier to break the ice than you think. You just have to try it a few times.

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It's Easy to be Spontaneous

Wednesday, July 1st, 2009

I’m sure you’ve heard all sorts of women state that they love a guy that is spontaneous. And being spontaneous is really fun to. It’s exciting because you don’t really know what you’re going to do for the day and just make a snap decision on the fly. Typically these snap decisions lead you down directions you probably wouldn’t go normally. The problem for a lot of guys is that we’re not really that spontaneous. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not. I’m a very routine oriented person because that’s really the only way for me to get things done. But I can show you how easy it is to be spontaneous or at least appear that way.

Spontaneous is best defined as doing something arising from a momentary impulse. Since I’m not an impulsive person, I’m not really in the position to do that. But another way to look at spontaneous is doing something out of the ordinary. Anything that is different is a form of being spontaneous.

I made another post, which I don’t want to dig up and find, that consisted of a way to get better date ideas, but the same thing can be used to be spontaneous in any situation. Basically you take a business card and write very small on the back. You write down all the little things that you want to do. You don’t have to write things that are huge goals, but something that you could complete if you wanted to.

For example, eat sushi, go to a gun range, play paintball, sky diving, etc.

Having this card is gold because you can just keep it in your wallet. I’m sure you’ve been with a group of people and someone says “what do you want to do” and someone else says ” i don’t know, what do you want to do”. Take a peek at your card and say “Let’s do this…”

You’re not officially spontaneous.

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Interest in a Friend?

Friday, November 7th, 2008

I hear this quite a lot actually. Guys that have female friends that they’re really interested in and it doesn’t surprise me. Guys that have female friends are typically interested in them on one level or another. I guess the real question comes down to whether you should pursue it or not.

I know a lot of guys will sit around be friends, while this girl has a boyfriend. But once she breaks up with him, they feel that it is now their time. I’ve talked about the dynamics of the friend zone, so you can guess that the odds are against you.

Risk it or Don’t Risk it

This is what it comes down to. There’s really a point in your life where you’re not really looking for more friends, you’re looking for something more and that maybe what you’re looking for. You have to understand that if you confess your feelings to her and she doesn’t feel the same way, that the friendship will be over because it will just get awkward.

The other side of the coin is that she feels the same way you do, but she doesn’t want to make the first move because of the reasons stated in the previous paragraph.

So it comes down to a choice. You can risk it or not. That’s what it all comes down to. Sometimes you just have to try, at least once. But the choice is up to you.

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