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This isn’t a problem I’ve ever had, but there are a lot of people out there that do. It’s mainly something the female demographic do, but I’m sure there are plenty of guys that do this too. When I say “dependent and clingy”, I don’t mean it in the traditional way, I meant it like you need to be in a relationship.
Can’t Not Be in a Relationship
There are people that literally can’t be alone. They’re just always in a relationship. They’re always with a girlfriend and you’ve never seen them single. These are the people that sort of scare me bit because I don’t think from an emotional point of view that they’re of sound thought.
Relationship Hoppers
This is a common thing for women. I think most people can tell when they’re past the point of no return. They want out. But there are people out there that will hang on to their current relationship while they build one behind the scenes with another. I find such an activity disrespectful since it is so dishonest, but it happens. It typically means they’re off dating someone else, while they’re still with you, with the intention of breaking up when they’re set up for another relationship.
What I think…
Dare to be alone? Seriously, if you can’t live alone, than you’re not ready for a relationship. Your happiness, your confidence, your self-esteem, your self-worth, your desires and dreams are not defined by who you are with. If you’re a person that isn’t happy while you’re single, than a relationship isn’t going to make that magically disappear.
I know that we have a natural gravitation to bond with others and grow an intimate relationship, but a lot of people turn this into a dependence on what will inevitably define who they are. I view relationships as negotiations. If you can’t walk away from the table, than how can you have a good deal? If you’re dependent, than you’re always going to be put at a disadvantage for it.
I’m not saying that you should naturally strive to be alone. What I’m saying is that you should be able to live alone and be happy. Once you make it to that point you’re able to have a healthy relationship because you’re an equal – not a dependent.
