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There are basically two types of dates you can go on: action dates and talking dates. I’m sure you’ll find people that claim both work really well and I’m sure depending on how good you are, you can make anything work.
The way you can tell the difference between the two is whether you guys are in a position to talk for the fun of the date or are you doing action for the fun of the date? If you were to go bowling, that would be an action date. If you were to go to a coffee shop, that would be a talking date.
I’m a big believer that early on in the dating sequences, your dates should be action oriented. There are a few reasons for this. Action dates tend to be more fun, higher emotions, more adrenaline, etc. Basically the more good things that are pumping chemically in the body, the more that feeling becomes associated with your presence.
Talking dates are great for learning about someone, but they don’t make good dates early on. If you want to bond as a person, you have to talk about more emotional and intimidate details. It can be hard for a person to open up on the first few dates. That means if you take someone to a coffee shop for a first date, you’re probably going to be talking about interview things like jobs and stuff. That doesn’t help you bond and that doesn’t create attraction.
Starting out, definitely go with the action dates because they’re fun and you’ll bond.
