I thought I’d try something a little different today that would help you reach a better dating life in just 30 days. Obviously reading this blog isn’t going to improve your dating life because action will only provide results. Well, I thought I’d give you the actions you need to do to be successful.
Days: 1 – 7
Starting slow is important and I think it is important to get the social muscles flexing. I’m not asking you to find a date. I’m not asking you to get phone numbers. All I want you to do is talk to people. It doesn’t matter if they’re male, female, young or old.
Basically, I want you to try and have at least 10 conversations with strangers. It is easy to talk to coworkers and other people you know (or semi-know). I want you to go up a stranger and have a conversation.
It can be a little tough talking to strangers, but make an effort to do it. Don’t worry about making mistakes because they’re just strangers.
Days: 8 – 14
This week I want you to do the same thing you did the first week, except you have to approach 10 strangers that you find attractive. Basically, someone you would view as dating material.
You still don’t have to get numbers or anything along those lines. I would ask you to try and do some flirting. If you’re familiar with flirting, I have written an article on how to flirt.
What you’re trying to accomplish this week is getting comfortable with talking to people you find attractive. It can be intimidating, so that’s why I want you to practice without the added pressure of having to get their number.
Days: 15 – 21
This is going to be the more fun/intimidating week because you’re now going to try to get yourself a date, but not an official date. I think the term people use to describe what I’m talking about is an “insta-date”. This is where you meet a woman at the mall, talk and than go for lunch at the food court.
The idea here is to have your conversation. You’ll want to tease and flirt like you were to do on the previous week. Than you want to change the venue that you are talking in.
For example, if you’re at the mall, an instant date would be going to another store. You could always get her to help you find clothing and things of that nature.
The idea here is to change the venue, but in such away that she is going to a new place with you. So it is sort of like a date.
Try to get a few insta-dates.
Days: 22 – 28
The last week will be the most challenging because you’re going to start asking for phone numbers. Please not that you can ask for numbers after an insta-date too, so there’s a lot of things you can do.
Basically this is the practice of finally pulling the trigger. It’s where you put yourself on the line and it’s just something you need to learn to do. I want you to try to get five phone numbers.
Days: 29 – 30
The is the last part where you’re going to phone up your number and have a date. Let me give you a piece of advice from a marketing point of view. The less pressure you put on a person for buying the better. That means if you come out and say “wanna go on a date?” she’s going to feel a lot of pressure.
Saying something like “I’m going down to the bowling ally, you can tag along if you want” comes off much less threatening. There’s no pressure and she is more likely to buy in.
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Obviously this challenge isn’t the easiest for most people and some will struggle more than others. That’s life. I gave numbers there and I believe they should be the minimum that you should try for, even if you’re really bad. If you’re good, try for much more. It never hurts.