Online Dating Tips

I think a lot of guys need to start understanding that women are just as insecure about themselves as you are. Actually they’re probably more insecure. It’s an odd thing really. When you see a woman that is very beautiful, with guys chasing her and her having a lot of boyfriends, you would just assume that she knows she’s hot and that she is perfect.

At least that’s the way I used to look at it, but often this type of situation breeds the biggest insecurities for her. She spends countless hours preparing just to be seen in public and she has to look her best. She has expectations that she has to meet. She also feels like guys only like her for her looks, so if she isn’t looking good she’ll get dumped.

It’s pretty rough.

There’s no need to put women on a pedestal because they’re just as human as you or I. They have fears. They have doubts. They have insecurities. They have embarrassing moments. They desire to be loved. They desire to be appreciated. They’re human.

The point of this post was humility. You need to stop living in your head and being so damn insecure about talking to women. She has the same fears. When you go up to a woman, she is just as afraid of being judged as you are of being judged.

Stop worrying so much. You’re both humans.

If you’re getting worried or nervous about dates than you should recognize that you’re living too much up in your head. The feelings you get come from being in your head analyzing as much of it as possible and analyze as many outcomes as possible, even the ones that aren’t probable to happen. These thoughts continue to be reiterated in your subconscious until you actually get scared and think they’ll happen.

Do you really want to feel that way? You should recognize that hanging out with a woman shouldn’t create feelings of fear or nervousness. No one wants that.

If you’re looking to go in for a kiss on a date, you don’t want to feel nervous. The idea of kissing a woman should excite you, not scare you. But that’s something that a lot of guys have to deal with on a regular basis.

First, you will get past part of this. You won’t feel like a total weirdo hanging out with a woman. You’ll learn to live in the moment and enjoy yourself. You will probably still experience a little nervousness though at the thought of going to hang out with her. I don’t think these feelings totally disappear. The same applies for kissing.

The deal you have to learn is to become spontaneous and just be in the moment. You can’t think about it if you just do it.

A lot of people are always looking for a way to be successful and do what is necessary. The last thing people do is create a routine (which inevitably leads to a habit). People will try, fail, give up, work up their nerve and try again. That’s very counter productive because it doesn’t build on itself. It doesn’t help you have a routine of productive and effective behaviors that you’re always doing.

Trying to talk to strangers at the mall each day is something that is great. It doesn’t matter if you crash and burn every single day for a week. It’s the behavior that you want. You should at least recognize that the more you talk to strangers, the better you will get at it. The more you talk to women the better you’ll get at it. The more you flirt with women, the better you’ll get at it. The more you ask women out, the better you’ll get at it.

Everything in life that works comes from routine behavior. If you want clean teeth, you don’t do amazing things. You don’t work hard. All you do is make a routine for brushing and flossing, nothing more.

Picking up women isn’t hard. You just need to make a routine for it, so you can work out the kinks and it will be second nature.