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Archive for June, 2009
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Tuesday, June 30th, 2009When to Call After a Date
Monday, June 29th, 2009Obviously turning this dating stuff into a science is very important, it’s just a tough thing to do. The more of a science it comes down to, the easier it will be for you to learn. Calling after a date is a tough one to figure out because you can portray some characteristics that can scare of a woman. I don’t think you can fully appreciate things until you see this from the perspective of a female.
All women of beauty will have a lot of guys in her life that are looking to get in her pants. It’s just an inevitability of being beautiful. In her eyes, they probably don’t have a shot, but they’re still there. These guys will call her and bend over backwards at the attempt to impress her. They’re always available to help her do anything that she needs.
Some women will take advantage (use) of these people and other women will be really put off by it. You don’t want to end up in either case. On one side you’ll be viewed as someone to use and you won’t get any respect. On the other side you’re just another creep.
The key point here is availability. It’s not to say that you can’t help a female, it’s about availability. If you’re always available than you just don’t have anything valuable to offer the world because your time is free.
This is sort of the philosophy you want to offer to making calls. If you’re always too available, than you’re just going to scare her off (or use you). Industry standard is two days. It’s just a way to show that you have other things going on and can’t be bothered to check up on her. You’re a busy guy. There’s also another positive that comes a long with this and it is anticipation. Assuming your date went well, the longer she has to wait, the more she’ll want you.
Dating Weekly Summary – June 26
Friday, June 26th, 2009Here is another dating weekly summary for the week of June 26th. This is a summary post of the posts over the week. This makes it easier to know exactly what you’re looking for and want to read.
Win Over Her Group – If you’ve actually been going out and trying to meet women, there has probably been a phenomenon you have observed: beautiful women rarely ever travel alone. Women are always in groups and you can’t expect to get anywhere with one of them, unless you win over the group. Get the tips that you’ll need to achieve that.
Why You Should Never Lie – I wanted to open your eyes to another dynamic of a relationship. The need to lie and keep things going is nothing more than cowards move. You should never be ashamed of the truth.
How to Show Interest – This may seem like an odd thing to show you, but a lot of guys have a hard time showing interest… the kind of interest that shows you like them. And talking to them isn’t enough to show that. Here is what you need to do.
Having Rules With Relationships – People get into relationships and than will bend over backwards to have them function in a decent manner. The reality is that you should have rules for the relationship. If you have to bend over backwards to accommodate a relationship, than it probably isn’t worth being in.
Having Rules With Relationships
Thursday, June 25th, 2009I think having rules with a relationship is very important. I’m not saying that you have rules for your girlfriend and what she should be doing. I think there are specific rules that you need to set for yourself on what you expect from the relationship. Also you need rules to help you with those tough decisions that will inevitably come your way. It’s hard to make smart choices when you’re in “love”.
Never Sacrifice Yourself
I mean sacrifice yourself in a larger sense. This is a big rule for me and I think it is important to have. I can best explain this by giving an example. Let’s say you’re in University and you meet this really great girl that you develop a relationship with. This is your last year of University and you’ve applied to graduate school. The best graduate program in the country has accepted you in. You’ll be working on things you’ve always been excited about, but you have to travel to the other side of the country.
What do you do? It amazes me how many guys will just go to graduate school at their current University because they want to stay with their girlfriend. It might seem nice, noble and sweet, but I just can’t do it.
If someone truly loves you and wants to see the best for you, than your girlfriend should support you going. Sacrificing a major opportunity for yourself is just wrong. The sad part is that if you do sacrifice, you’ll inevitably resent her for it and your relationship will turn sour.
I know it sounds cold, but it’s just reality.
No Coworkers
Do not get into relationships with people that are going to be around you if you were to break up. The odds of having a mutual breakup is slim and someone is probably going to be hurt. It just makes things awkward and weird.
No Crap or Undeserved Drama
This is another one of my special rules. There are some people that just seem to want attention, no matter what it is. This is something that needs to be nipped in the butt early in a relationship or they’ll learn it as an acceptable form of behavior.
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I’d like to point out that the rules here are applicable for both men and women. If you’re a female, you can apply these too. I wouldn’t expect a woman to sacrifice a great opportunity for a relationship. I’d hope you’d be in a relationship with someone that would support you doing that.
How to Show Interest
Wednesday, June 24th, 2009I know a lot of guys have a real problem with this type of thing. I know this because it is something that I have struggled with. I don’t think it necessarily has to do with the fact that it is difficult for me to open up emotionally, I think it comes down to a basic fear of rejection. If you never show that you have any interest, than technically you can’t be shot down. Now you’re not going to get anywhere thinking like that, but your mind doesn’t see it that way. You can typically enjoy your time with a person, without having to risk it on showing that you’re interested.
A lot of pick up artists will use something that involves interest and disinterest. I have a feeling that this sort of thing is meant more for a bar where a woman is constantly approached. But eventually in all cases you’re going to have to learn to say “I like you.” It doesn’t have to be in those words, but you have to make sure she understands that.
Juggler happens to be another pick up artists that really has a great approach for this. Obviously you just can’t say that you like someone after meeting them. It’s creepy. What Juggler came up with is getting a woman to telling something about herself. Maybe she volunteers down at an animal shelter. You can say something like “I have a lot of respect for people try to save animals and give them good homes”. This demonstrates that you approve and respect what she does, rather than the way she looks.
Later you can get another story out of her and say “that’s sexy” or something like that. This shows a much deeper type of interest.
Why You Should Never Lie
Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009Lying is something that people don’t like to associate with relationships, but it often comes out. There just seems to be a lot of people that will lie in a relationship to keep things going one way, to hide something or whatever. I can understand the reason why a person would do it, but I don’t think it is necessary. Honesty is really the only way to do things properly and I’ll explain why.
Why a person lies?
In a relationship, a person lies so they can avoid upsetting the person with them. It can also stop someone from leaving you. Everyone that lies in a relationship is trying to hold onto their relationship. Even if they were cheating and lied about it, they’re still holding onto the relationship.
What does this portray?
Basically this is a move that is nothing more than cowardice. It’s weak. It’s a loser thing to do. The fact that you have to hide something shows that you know it is bad, wrong and you’re just doing it for yourself at the expense of someone else.
What you shouldn’t have to lie?
As long as you’re open with your intentions of a relationship, than you’re the one in control and you’re the one confident enough to say it. A lot of women won’t like it, but they’ll at least respect your honesty. Some women will walk away and others will want to continue. Things like having an open relationship isn’t that difficult if you tell the person early on what you’re looking for.
There’s no need to lie about things like this. Lying shows that you’re just ashamed and confident men are not ashamed.
Win Over Her Group
Monday, June 22nd, 2009I’m sure there are some of you reading this blog, but not actually applying the information or are at least hesitant to apply it. I suppose that isn’t the best position to be in, but if you’re working yourself toward it than that is fine. One thing that you’re going to notice is that women of beauty are rarely ever alone. It’s an odd thing, they always have friends around them, both male and female. I know that this is intimidating for a lot of you because it used to be intimidating for me. It feels like you have an audience watching you and if you mess up, they’ll laugh. I hate to break it to you, but they’re not the audience. They have to be interacted with too. You have to win over her group.
A woman will often look for the approval of their friends when it comes to a potential mate. That means when you go to interact with her group of people, they have to like you too. If you don’t come off favorable with her friends, you’re not going to get anywhere. It doesn’t matter how much you click with the person you like, the friends will sabotage you and drag her away.
I suppose that adds even more pressure because you have to impress a lot of other people. Often it isn’t as simple as “impressing”. Often guys will walk into a group and just talk to the person they’re interested in, while ignoring everyone else. That’s a recipe for failure. Try going into a group and ignoring the person you like while making friends with everyone else. Throw in a few teases and you should be able to have a much better favorable interaction after a few minutes of winning over her group.
Dating Weekly Summary – June 19
Friday, June 19th, 2009This is another weekly summary, where I share with you the subjects that happened over the last week, so you can easily go through them on the weekend or when you have more free time.
The Introduction of the Wingman – It surprises me how most people don’t understand what a wingman is or at least the goal behind one. They assume that they’re just your friend or has to take one for the team.
Comfort Building Guide – Comfort building is a very important part of this whole game of dating and meeting people. If you create an awkward vibe, than you’re just going to make all your experiences bad.
What to Talk About on Dates – Discover what you should be talking about on dates. I know there are a lot of you that just don’t get it. Your mind goes absolutely blank because your stomach is in naughts and your adrenaline is pumping.
The Act of Choice – I wanted to discuss something a little different. It’s about the philosophy behind your choice of women. Many guys will let a woman choose them, but they don’t ever try choosing a woman. There’s a big difference.
The Introduction of the Wingman
Thursday, June 18th, 2009I’m sure everyone has heard of a wingman and typically view that as your friend that comes with you to a bar or something, when you just want to meet women. I wish it was that simple, but it is much more complicated. A wingman is actually there to help you have a better shot with a particular woman that you like and can be a vital weapon to have in places like bars. So this is my introduction of the wingman.
Disarming
Any hot woman you meet (especially at bars) has been talked to by other men that are trying to pick her up. In her shoes it gets a little annoying after a while. This is why you might run into a lot of rude women. It’s not that they’re rude because of you, it’s just that they have a shield up that is protecting them from all the men trying to pick them up.
The idea here is that your wingman is there to help you disarm her. You want the shield to come down, so you can have a conversation. How you do this is much more complicated and deserves it’s own friend.
The Girl’s Friend
Women of value rarely ever travel alone, so you’re always going to see her with her friends. It can sometimes be difficult to balance things out two or three other people. Plus you need the time to build some comfort (which happens one on one), so a wingman is there to provide attention to the friends, so you can work your magic.
This is really just a basic philosophical look at what a wingman is expected to do, but you should get a better idea. You’re not in competition, you’re just there to increase each others odds of success.
Comfort Building Guide
Wednesday, June 17th, 2009Let’s say that you went up and approached a woman that you’re attracted too. You end up starting a conversation with here and things seem to be going good. Maybe you asked for her opinion and she had some real great input for you to use. You can play with this for a little bit, but eventually you have to get into comfort building. You have to understand that you’re not going to hang around with someone that makes you uncomfortable. Even if you create tension the wrong way you can destroy any sort of comfort and she’ll run. A lot of guys don’t really understand the concept of building comfort or how to properly do it.
Comfort is really about rapport and commonalities. Obviously you need some sort of rapport, but a lot of guys don’t understand how to properly show the commonalities.
If she said she likes chocolate ice cream and you immediately say “WOW ME TOO”, you’re not exactly building any sort of commonalities.
Commonalities are much better demonstrated by understanding. I’ve heard a lot of women say that “he gets me.” That is the impression you want to create. You have to start learning to read people and listen to them. All conversations reveal great pieces of information about a person and you have to immediately identify that, so you can later do comfort building.
For example, let’s say you notice she’s holding her cellphone and you make the comment, “you seem to be very attached to your cell, let me ask you, if you were trapped in a locked room and just had enough battery power to call one person, who would you call?” She might say anything, but obviously you know the answer is going to be of a person she holds of value. You don’t even need to ask why (it doesn’t hurt to ask why though).
Knowing this information, you can later use it for comfort building. All you have to do is orient a story around her answer. Let’s say she said her mom, well, you can use your mom in a story and how she did something that made you respect her so much more.
That’s how you build the commonalities and essentially do your comfort building.